When I was a kid I wanted to be in the position Chris Johnson and Juan Francisco are in right now. I wanted to be the third baseman for the Atlanta Braves after my baseball hero, Chipper Jones retired. I was 10 years old and I convinced myself that I could man the hot corner after Jones’ last at bat.
During my junior year of high school I had a growth spurt. Oh boy was I excited for that. I knew this would be the thing I needed to play third base.
“Professional baseball players have to be tall…at least 5’8″ is what I would tell myself. I never saw anyone shorter in the big leagues, much less a third baseman. When my growth spurt ended, my portly 4’9″ frame became a slightly less portly 5’3”. Tallness complete. It was at that point I knew it was time to change career goals.
If I couldn’t be an athlete, I wanted to cover the athletes. I wanted to be a sportswriter. I went to college with the goal of becoming the best sportswriter the world has ever seen. Then sports made me a little jaded. Most of the student-athletes I met at school were jerks. Then I remembered: The stud jocks from my high school are the same guys who become these neanderthals that roam my college campus. I didn’t like them in high school, why would I like them now? New career choice.
I sought counseling for clinical depression. The clinical depression was later diagnosed as Bi-Polar disorder. I got help from a counselor and it had a huge impact on me. I wanted to do the same. So I returned to college, this time at a different school and got my degree in Psychology. I was ready to help solve all of the problems of the world, one person at a time. A series of conversations led me to let go of that idea. The conversations went a little like this. A friend needed advice. I gave them advice. I thought it was sound advice. They immediately did the exact opposite of what I suggested. It blew up in their face. I was right. They were wrong. I was mad. Could I deal with this for the next 30-35 years of my life? The answer was a quick no. Next dream.
The best job I could get out of college was an entry-level management job at a restaurant. I had zero restaurant experience, so it came as a shock to me to get the call. After six months in, this became the new dream. Three years later, the dream is no longer. Here is why.
I found out that it doesn’t matter what your career or what your dream is, or that the career/dream are one in the same. The important thing is that you are still dreaming. My dreams have changed as I have changed. As I have gained more wisdom and displayed more maturity, the details of the dream have changed as well. The details are basically gone. My dreams are much broader in scope than in the past, yet my dreams are also much more simplistic than they were before.
I recently found out something incredibly beneficial to me, and I hope to you as well. Ready for it……
My dreams are not my own.
Sure, they are formed in my mind and expressed through my actions but they are not owned by me. My dreams are like a community garden in the way that each person that has come into my life has formed and shaped me, helping me live out the dream on a daily basis. Some people in life will stir things up, they till the soil. Others will be the water, taking you into the dark places where tears are necessary for growth. Finally some in my life have been the sunshine, or light. They have been the spark to help me reach for something higher. To help me grow taller.
What will my next dream be? I’m not exactly sure. But I do know the blueprint. My dream will help others. My dream will be designed to make a positive impact on people’s lives. My dream will be my wife’s dream, because we are one now. Her dreams are my dreams too. My dreams will be inspired by God and will seek to show his Kingdom and his glory.
My dream is nothing like it was when I was a 10 year-old boy. For that, I am so very thankful.
Are you still dreaming?
If so, what will you next dream be?
How have your dreams changed as you have changed?